UK boy, 5, gets billed for no-show at friend’s birthday bash

20 Jan 2015 | Author: | No comments yet »

‘No-show’ bill rendered after boy misses party.

LONDON — It was not what Derek Nash expected to find in his 5-year-old’s school bag: A bill demanding a “no-show fee” for another child’s birthday party.The parents of five-year-old Alex Nash were shocked to discover an invoice for nearly $30 after their son missed a classmate’s recent birthday party – the BBC reported. “It was a proper invoice with full official details and even her bank details on it,” explained father Derek Nash, who claims he was told that he would be taken to small claims court after refusing to pay the invoice.A five-year-old boy in England has been billed for skipping out on a birthday party — and his parents have been threatened with court action if they don’t pay up.

Nash said the bill from another parent sought 15.95 pounds ($24.00) because his son Alex had not attended the party at a ski center in Plymouth, southwest England. Birthday mom, Julie Lawrence, apparently feels justified in sending the “no show fee” since Alex’s parents had confirmed his attendance through an RSVP. On the day of the very important birthday party, however, Alex’s parents realized that their son had been “double-booked” and was scheduled to spend time with his grandparents. This appears to be one of those polarizing parental moments that spark emotional conversations on social media over everything from etiquette to common sense and the high cost modern parents pay – fiscally and emotionally – when a child’s party goes from being a celebration to an expensive event. The ski park where the party was held, Plymouth Ski and Snowboard Centre, posted a note on Facebook about the incident saying it never sent out any invoices in the matter. “This is a disagreement between the two parents involved and the fact that the centre has been named on the invoice is fraudulent.”

However, as happens all too often to many parents, Nash didn’t have the phone number or email address for the other parent to let her know his son would not be there. Let’s step back a moment and admit that it’s pretty aggravating to have people either fail to RSVP, or to do so and then be a no-show, particularly for an expensive party. Higher party expenses for my family would mean limiting the number of kids who could come to the party to maybe three at best, so my husband and I have had to go the route of investing the time, creativity, and effort in old-school home parties with lots of inventive games and action-packed activities. However, I will also admit that I have lived in fear of losing the invitation or blowing the date because the other parents can get very sensitive about a failure to appear at a pricey party.

Had Alex’s parents made a real effort to contact the birthday boy’s parents and actually apologize for his absence, it likely would have been the end of it. Not to mention, if some children could not attend the party, it is likely that Lawrence would have extended invitations to other children in their place. I paid for the pony no matter how many kids ride it.” Gottsman adds that lavish parties for children can be a slippery, anxiety-producing, slope which can be an invitation to parental strain and open the field to overreaction.

One commenter, sarcastically suggested such an invitation might be worded, “Because we are skiing and tubing this party is pricey, please confirm only if you are sure you are coming. Because honestly I am giving my son a party he cannot afford, with activities that are too old for a group of 5 year olds without additional parents along, but hey, I will be the first to have this party. If you do come it is free…..Cause this makes sense only to me.” “In this case I think we have miscommunication and over-reaction leading to a bad situation that nobody intended to go viral – which this certainly has,” Gottsman said. There are better routes to communication which parents, above all others, might want to try and take and in so doing, set a positive example for our kids. “There are proper and improper ways for things to be done and a child’s birthday party is not a business.

It is incredibly frustrating to try to plan the perfect birthday party only to be met with parents who never bother to RSVP and others who do, but then fail to show up or offer an explanation. That’s a good lesson for children to learn from us.” Gottsman made another good point saying, “It’s important to realize that when throwing a party for a 5-year-old, you take into account 5-year-old expectations and skills. In this case, Gottsman suggests that it come from the mother who issued the invoice. “What’s authentic in this case is to simply call the dad and say, ‘Things got out of hand.

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